Religious and faith deconstruction therapy in Alhambra and online across CA

Supporting you through shifting beliefs, uncertainty, and rediscovery. 

Something in your faith no longer feels right, and that’s okay.

You never imagined you’d be here. For most of your life, your faith has felt like a steady foundation, and you’ve always been so sure of your convictions. But now, you’re just not sure what you believe in anymore. It’s not that you’ve rejected faith altogether; you’re just trying to be honest with yourself.

You’re asking yourself deeper questions:

  • What do I really believe, apart from what I was taught? 

  • What still holds meaning? 

  • How do I know what’s true?

  • What really aligns with me and my values? 

These questions don’t come from rebellion or apathy—they come from integrity, intention, and a desire to make your faith your own. Asking them can feel both liberating and disorienting.

Sunday mornings might bring a mix of guilt, sadness, and anxiety.

Church used to feel like home; now it feels like entering a place you no longer belong. You might still show up, going through the motions while feeling emotionally miles away. Or maybe you’ve stepped back completely, feeling pangs of guilt while staying home instead.

You also look at what’s unfolding in the world—the political and cultural landscape only intensifies the growing sense of misalignment within you.

It’s hard to reconcile the injustice you see around you, especially when it’s excused, ignored, or even upheld by religious institutions.

Maybe something painful happened that shook your faith, pulling the rug from under you. Or maybe it’s been a gradual unraveling over time. Either way, you find yourself caught between two worlds: the one you’ve stepped away from, and the one you haven’t fully discovered yet. 

And in this “in-between” space, perhaps the strongest emotion you feel is grief.

There’s a real loss in no longer feeling certain—loss of belonging, identity, and purpose. It’s painful to admit that parts of your faith no longer fit with you.

Let’s acknowledge the complexity of where you are, and hold hope for where you’re going.

Things may feel heavy and confusing right now, but it doesn’t have to stay this way. Imagine the inner tension softening, and you begin experiencing a deeper sense of peace and clarity. You start to feel more aligned within yourself and grounded in who you truly are.

As you learn to accept yourself and where you’re at without shame, your relationships begin to feel stronger and more genuine. It gets easier to be honest with friends and family about where you’re at, and you seek out people who truly honor and support where you are now.

You start to recognize which parts of your faith still resonate with you, and which parts you’d like to leave behind. With that clarity comes a renewed sense of freedom to develop beliefs that feel truly meaningful and real to you. You start to discover new ways to connect to your spirituality, whether that means reimagining your faith, exploring different avenues to live it out, or stepping outside of religion entirely.

You give yourself permission to sift through the questions and doubt, without the burden of guilt or shame. You learn to accept and even embrace the uncertainty, understanding that it’s okay to not have all the answers.

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Navigating religious deconstruction can oftentimes feel like an ongoing battle within you—like different parts of you are pulling you in opposite directions.

In therapy, we’ll create space to slow down and listen to all parts of you with compassion and understanding, including the different parts of you that might be:

  • Doubting and questioning your beliefs

  • Feeling guilty for questioning

  • Wanting to hold on to your faith

  • Carrying grief and loss in this process.

Rather than battling these feelings or choosing one “right” way to feel, we’ll explore each of your parts with curiosity and care. Together, we’ll understand what each part of you is carrying, whether it’s fear, pain, longing, or desire for truth. Through exploring your inner world, we’ll help calm the internal conflict and confusion and make room to build a faith that feels true to you.

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Therapy for religious and faith deconstruction can help you…

  • Process the grief and mixture of feelings that come with deconstruction

  • Soften the guilt around questioning or leaving certain beliefs

  • Heal from religious trauma and pain

  • Shape a spiritual path that is authentic to you

  • Connect with your inner voice and cultivate self-trust

This is a space for your doubts, your voice, and your healing.

FAQs

  • Religious deconstruction is the process of questioning and reexamining the faith or belief system you previously held. It can involve challenging long-held beliefs, processing harmful experiences, and deciding what you’d like to hold on to or leave behind. It’s a deeply personal journey which involves exploring what truly feels real and aligned to you.

  • Deconstruction brings up a myriad of feelings; the goal of religious deconstruction therapy is to support you through processing your feelings, making sense of your experiences, and clarifying your own values and voice.

    Religious deconstruction therapy is NOT deconversion therapy, nor is it spiritual direction. I will not tell you what to believe; I will provide a safe and nonjudgmental space to help you find what feels authentic to you.

  • No, I won’t encourage you to do either. My role is not to steer you in any particular direction, but to support you as you navigate your own thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Whether you choose to stay, leave, return, or reshape your relationship with faith, I am here to walk alongside you.

  • I work with people from all types of religious backgrounds. I’m especially familiar with the experiences of deconstructing evangelical Christianity.